To Catch a Subtle Predator …
For a few weeks now I’ve been prevy to the interaction of a couple of bloggers. One is a young woman trying to find herself and frankly she’s not even sure what that means really (hell, I don’t even know either but oh well). The other is a young woman, albeit of an adult age at least, that is exploring her sense of whoredom and trying ad nauseum to find a way to make it sound acceptable in real circles, to make it seem … well, mainstream.
Well guess what? Whether it’s hanging out on a corner or meeting up at a high-dollar hotel, it’s still prostitution. So yeah, Alexa, I’m calling you out. Your site is fine and well, catering to the curious in most of us and the horny in … yeah most of us. But when you openly engage in conversation publicly (and who knows what privately) with a young woman that was initially 15 years old (only recently turned 16), you have crossed the line in a big way. And not just engaging in conversation because conversation alone is fine. But you have made sure to make it sexual, or at least suggestive — in every way possible.
To the point that she has a “crush” on you and on a certain level seeks to emulate you. Great. Just what we need in America; an actual aspiring escort/professional whore. Well done Alexa! Hope you’re proud to be such an amazingly positive influence on the youth of our country.
Bottom line Alexa is, you’re a fucking whore, plain and simple. And while I personally don’t care what you do with your life, stop medling in the life of a young and impressionable teenage girl. If you don’t have anything constructive to say keep your trap and legs shut. This girl is in a very vulnerable time in her life just now and she doesn’t need jackasses like you acting so overtly open in a sexual sense, so cavalierly toward her.
What you have done to this point is borderline illegal by the way. And I’m speaking only of what has been made public. So what I’m saying to you is, stop being the quiet predator. Stop fuelling young people with your titilations… at least require some age verification of some kind before allowing access to your blog. If you’re grown up and not just doing some young immature thing with your “escort” service, then prove it by not entertaining the interests and curiosities of 15 year olds. Be a grown up damnit! And stop with the silly immature blog comments across the net – espcecially on those owned by underage girls and boys.
In short: Cut it out!
And to those that think predators are only in the form of a sketchy ugly old man, think again. Look around you and be aware. Especially young people out here online today… keep your eyes and minds open and know a predator exists in every form imaginable. Be skeptical, and above all, be safe. ~Peace~
Well, I suppose since you’re “calling me out” I guess I should at least respond to your drivel.
First off, the young lady in question here and I have been friends for several years now, long before I ever headed down this path, and long before you rode in on your little white horse to try to save the day. I would highly recommend that you make sure you get your facts straight and understand WTF you’re talking about before you go off foaming at the mouth as you have here. It’s quite clear that you haven’t bothered to ask the very person you’re trying to “protect” about any of this. Why not? (That’s a rhetorical question, by the way. I know why you haven’t.).
Please do let me address some of your more salient points, though (I’ll wait while you look up the word “salient”).
Well guess what? Whether it’s hanging out on a corner or meeting up at a high-dollar hotel, it’s still prostitution.
Thank you, Captain Obvious. I don’t think I’ve implied otherwise. I fully acknowledge that what I do is, largely, prostitution. The fact that *you* have a problem with it means nothing to me. And your use pejoratives to refer to me throughout your little post here doesn’t bother me in the least, just as an FYI. I’ve been called far worse by better people. The fact that you have to attack someone behind a supposed veil of anonymity speaks volumes about your character. I at least own up to what I do and who I am.
Bottom line Alexa is, you’re a fucking whore, plain and simple.
Does it make you feel better to attempt to make someone feel bad about who/what they are? Does it make you feel more like a man?
…and on a certain level seeks to emulate you. Great. Just what we need in America; an actual aspiring escort/professional whore.
Since you appear to be attempting to denigrate whoredom, the fact that you’re suggesting that’s what she might be tells me you’re dissing one of your girlfriend’s friends. I wonder how AA feels about that?
You can’t point to anywhere where I have actively encouraged her to do anything, let alone become a prostitute. What I do encourage her to do (and always have) is to be herself, respect herself, and make decisions for herself based on what she wants to do (and not what people like you think is right for her). She is perfectly capable of deciding whether or not what I say to her offends her in any way, shape, form or fashion, and if it does, asking me not to discuss those things with her. She doesn’t need daddy casual nonsense to ride in and save her from the mean old whore woman.
What you have done to this point is borderline illegal by the way.
Obviously, you don’t have a degree in law. Nothing going on here is remotely illegal. And just so you know, the age of consent where she lives is 16, so even if I were to fly out to meet her and something happened, it would still be legal. Of course, I’m not planning on doing that, so that is irrelevant anyway.
If you’re grown up and not just doing some young immature thing with your “escort” service,
I’d address that if I knew what it meant. How do you do something “immature” with an escort service?
And I’m speaking only of what has been made public.
And therein lies the root of your problem. You have *no* idea what goes on behind her blog. You’ve seen a few words exchanged and drawn all kinds of assumptions, making yourself look so incredibly silly in the process. As I said, we’ve known each other for quite a while, and if *she* has a problem with something I’m doing, she can damned well tell me herself, and I’ll respect *her* wishes.
And stop with the silly immature blog comments across the net
Thanks, but I think I am fully capable of making my own decisions about when and where to comment on peoples’ blogs, what to say, etc. If I want to comment on someone’s blog, I will. Period.
Now, kindly quit e-stalking me, and if you feel the need to protect someone in the future, please, for the love of god, make sure you have a complete understanding of what is going on before you open your trap. You only make yourself look foolish.
Touch a nerve did I Alexa? So sorry if the truth hurts but hey, it’s my blog and I’ll write whatever I choose.
For the record, I write here for me and no one else. I was not trying to “save” anyone with this post. Hell, no one ever reads my blog but me and my fiance anyway which is pretty much the way I like it. To wit, I’ve had more hits on my blog today alone than I’d had in the entire year before. I wrote what I did because I saw something that the more I thought about it, the more wrong it seemed. I chose to do so on MY forum, not yours or anyone else’s.
I suppose you doubted I’d approve your comment, but that would have deprived me an opportunity to respond properly.
“The fact that you have to attack someone behind a supposed veil of anonymity speaks volumes about your character.”
Says the prostitute, making a value judgement about character and basing it upon a blog post. That’s rich.
“Since you appear to be attempting to denigrate whoredom, the fact that you’re suggesting that’s what she might be tells me you’re dissing one of your girlfriend’s friends. I wonder how AA feels about that?”
Actually I was not suggesting she IS one, rather suggesting your influence upon her may push her to one day choose the same path. And FYI, my fiance was sat right next to me as I wrote every word of the post, and agrees with me.
“Nothing going on here is remotely illegal. And just so you know, the age of consent where she lives is 16, so even if I were to fly out to meet her and something happened, it would still be legal.”
Well that surely makes it all ok then ahe? Truth is, interstate communications (that means across state lines, but I’m sure you know that right Johnny Cochran?) with a minor involving sexual content is surely walking a fine line. And while she’s of legal age of consent now, she’s not of legal age to view explicit sexual content, which she surely has done on your site. Furthermore, you say you’ve been friends with her for “several years now”, which means you were conversing with her when she was what: 12, 13? This fact illustrates my point even more. Is this not exactly what is meant by the term grooming? Your parents must be beaming with pride.
“I’d address that if I knew what it meant. How do you do something “immature” with an escort service?”
The rest of that sentence you quoted explains precisely what you ask. I said “…then prove it by not entertaining the interests and curiosities of 15 year olds.” Just because she turned 16 a few weeks ago does not mean that what you’re doing, exerting significant influence on a young impressionable mind, is appropriate.
” If I want to comment on someone’s blog, I will. Period.
Now, kindly quit e-stalking me, and if you feel the need to protect someone in the future, please, for the love of god, make sure you have a complete understanding of what is going on before you open your trap. You only make yourself look foolish.”
And I’m free to comment right back, subject of course to the owner of the blog. E-stalking. Right. Two comments poking fun of your sophomoric attempts at humor – one of which was on my fiance’s blog actually – and my post here on my blog means I’m e-stalking. Ok, if you say so Copernicus.
Finally, the real goal of my post was to express my feelings on what I’ve observed and to do so quietly on my blog – a blog that previously was devoid of visitors. Truth is, were you a man conversing with a minor in the ways you have, everyone would be thinking and probably saying the same things I am.
You’re grown, do what you wish. Just try to not recruit young teens to your profession.
I have read Alexa’s blog and personally I think that she is full of shit. She manages several websites (professional sex, Caitlins Corner, her own blog, her pro site) and God knows what other websites. Personally I think that she makes up a large portion of the stories that she tries to sell on her blog so that she can get more clients.
I just saw her on another site: http://princessblueyez.com/
So I guess she is a cam girl, prostitute, college student, writer, doctoral candidate, sex therapist, teen sex educator, fire eater, magic maker, deity…basically full of crap.
I hope that you friend realizes that at her young age, she has more to offer than what’s between her legs. Yes I’m sure the money is great, but what about her dignity? She should realize that even though Alexa states that she is proud of her “career” she really is not, that’s why she lies to her parents. If she really felt that her parents were open minded and accepting then she would be an adult and tell them. But instead she hides behind the excuse that she wants to protect them from the stigma or her career…bullshit.
Best of luck to you young friend…perhaps you should inform her family. It’s in her best interest.